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I will always look at my family as a beautiful patchwork quilt.
Each of our children has a different and unique story. I mention
a patchwork quilt, also to describe how each and every child
is loved whether he or she was born from your own body, or
was a gift from God lovingly placed in your family. I often
have to remind myself that some of my children were adopted.
Our daughter Ashley (11 years old) is our first biological
child. We had a second child, Gregory, who was diagnosed with
a genetic disease called Gaucher when he was almost a year
old. And we were blessed to have him with us until age 4.
We choose adoption to complete our family that we had forever
dreamed of. We adopted our son Matthew at birth in 1998, through
open adoption. We have frequent contact with his birth family,
which is a wonderful blessing to Matthew and us. He will always
know he was loved so much that his birth family made a different
plan for him, and chose us to be his forever parents. We considered
pursing domestic adoption to adopt another child, however
the waiting time could be years. God opened our hearts to
pursue International Adoption. We researched the various programs,
agencies, and different countries. I spoke with several families
who had adopted from Russia, and knew this was the direction
we were being lead. I discovered Alaska International (AIA),
from the FRUA (Families for Russian Ukrainian Children) Web
site and Chat. I could not find one negative incident about
this agency. There were many others I considered, but each
of them had some sort of negative experience that was being
discussed. I kept hearing about how caring, and trustworthy
the staff was with AIA. When I contacted AIA in January 2002,
I knew this was the agency I would be working with. I spoke
with Olga and Natalia (Natasha) about the various programs
and regions they worked in. Soon, most of my contact was with
Natalia who runs the Magadan program. The response to emails,
phone calls was very prompt and thorough. Working with an
agency in Anchorage Alaska, and me being in California was
so different than our first adoption here in the USA. I must
say, she was very organized, and most of our forms were emailed
to us with detailed instructions on how to fill them out.
All the paperwork that is involved can be overwhelming, but
if you stay organized and complete things when Natalia requests
them it is all manageable. Natalia was very patient with our
family, as we waited many months longer, to find the right
child match for our family. It was encouraging to go on the
AIA Chat on Thursdays and talk with the families who were
returning successfully with their child(ren). I had some concerns
that the majority of the families were adopting from Khabarovsk,
and little was mentioned about Magadan. I now know God had
a specific plan for us, and to unite us with our daughters
he had chosen for us. We knew of our girls in September 2002,
and were so thrilled to get our court date of December 18,
2002. Once we landed in Magadan, Russia we were greeted and
escorted by the support staff they had set in place for us.
They brought us to the orphanage, knowing we were very anxious
to meet our girls. The first meeting was not the fairy tail
meeting one would expect. Both of the girls were a bit hesitant,
and were very unsure of these new strangers that the staff
was quickly introducing as Mama and Papa. On the second meeting
with Victoria and Nicole, they warmed up to us and the Cheerios
that we presented to them. Victoria, our 2 year old, soon
became "Daddy's girl" and Nicole our 1 year old
became very attached to her new mommy. This preferential attachment
lasted for several weeks after returning home. Now both girls
have formed loving attachments to Greg and I, their new siblings,
and all the animals.
I cannot say enough good things about Zoya and Ivan, who took
care of every detail while we were in Magadan. Zoya was always
very timely, efficient, and very professional. She and Natalia
are both highly respected with the staff at the Orphanage.
While Zoya was getting documents in order, Ivan was very generous
to bring us to the orphanage a couple times a day to visit
with our girls, tour us around Magadan, take us to museums,
and find the most fabulous restaurants to really experience
the culture and city from which our girls were born. The orphanage
staff will forever be remembered in our hearts. They were
so incredibly warm and welcoming to us. I truly believe that
our girls were blessed with each of them as their mommies
to care for and nurture them until we were united. The staff
of doctors and teachers does such a fabulous job in caring
for all these children, with such limited resources. They
should be very proud of all the activity and therapy rooms
they have set up for the children, so they can grow and develop
accordingly.
We were thrilled when all the paperwork went smoothly in Magadan
and Moscow, so we would be home in time for Christmas. We
were greeted at the airport by our friends and family on Christmas
Eve welcoming Victoria (2 yr) and Nicole (1 yr) home.
There is obviously some adjustment time that happens for each
member of the family. I must say the girls have done extremely
well considering their whole world changed. Everyday, I see
such incredible progress in each of the girls. Victoria is
very eager to learn new English words. After a month, I would
say she has learned about 20 words in English, however she
understands even more. My heart melted, when she said "I
Love You" to me. She loves to play outside, and explore
all the wonders that surround her new world. Before leaving
the orphanage with our girls the staff explained to us the
basic routines the girls were used to, to make the transition
period easier. This was extremely helpful when dealing with
a 2 year old, which became very accustom to routines. Even
today, we try to have some regularity so she knows what to
expect, and avoiding any miscommunication or meltdowns. The
comment I hear most about Victoria is how she is so friendly,
and always smiles. She loves music, and is often singing in
the car.
Nicole has changed so much in the first month of being home.
She was walking very unsteady with about 4 steps at the orphanage.
Today, she is walking all over the house with such confidence.
She is now beginning to talk some very basic words. She is
very healthy, alert and happy. She is such a cuddle bug.
The family adjustment to 4 children has been pleasantly busy.
We are forever thankful to AIA for helping us create such
a beautiful family. Everyone keeps saying how lucky these
girls are, and I say no it is quite the opposite
.we
are the ones blessed by having two beautiful daughters to
love and complete our family. Our daughters Victoria and Nicole
will know that we were willing to go to the ends of the Earth
to bring them home.
I included several details of our adoption journey, in the
event a family is researching domestic or international adoption
possibilities. There is pro's and con's to each choice in
completing your family. Feel free to contact us at dmacres@surewest.net
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